An Update

I debuted my blog on Facebook the other day - One Night Only! The top story, "Two Weddings and a Funeral". I didn't realize how many people view my FB until I posted the salacious story. And that's only the people who have talked to me about it... I get more responses each day!

I feel bad about posting the story to FB, but I don't regret it. I got what I wanted. My cousin has moved her day.

I wish I didn't have to post the story, but I was left with no choice. I had already sent my cousin an email asking her kindly to reconsider the day - no response. I asked my mother multiple times to call her cousin (my cuz's father) to tell him how I felt about it all. I told some other family members to try to relay a message.

No one did anything. And everyone in my immediate family thought that it could be left alone and the whole situation would blow over. Something like this just doesn't blow over, so I did what I felt was the only thing I could do. Post my blog to FB.

The next morning after the posting, my mom called me. She gently persuaded me to take it down, I did.. I thought one night was enough, especially since my aunt in CA called my mother in the early AM to discuss it... yikes! My mom told me that the wedding was never a wedding and it was a miscommunication. It was to be a birthday/engagement party. Ok.. I'm not sure I buy the "miscommunication" part, but if that's what the deal is.. then.. I can live with that.

I got a text last night from my mom. My cuz is now planning her wedding for August 27/28 in NYC. One month before. Ok.. I can live with that... I wonder if there are any venues still open for that date.. *evil smile*.

The moral of the story is: Don't post anything to FB that you don't want the whole world to see.. or do.. it might work in your favor.

Two Weddings and a Funeral

Well not quite, but it will be my cousin's funeral if she decides to have her wedding the same weekend as mine!

Can you believe that? Neither can I!

A few days ago, my mom emails me to tell me that my 2nd cousin got engaged.. "Oh, how lovely," I say.

But wait, there's more!

My mom tells me that originally my cousin was planning to have her wedding the SAME DAY as mine, but in England. However, when her father, my mom's cousin, told her that he wants to go to my wedding – she decided to move hers to the DAY BEFORE in NYC.

Why is she so determined to have her wedding on that weekend? Well, this is the kicker... her birthday! Who in their right mind wants to have her wedding on her birthday? A selfish b*tch, that's who! But I would think that the same selfishness that would entice the idea of a wedding/birthday, would then also entice the idea of having two days of celebrations and gifts rather than one.. sort of a Catch 22.

Anyways, the idea was posed to me as a "good thing for our shared guests". I bought into it for about 30 mins, but then I got to thinking.. It's not good at all! Our shared guests would have less than 12 hours between our weddings with 1.5 hr travel time. They are all from out of town, so they would have to rent cars to get out to Long Island from the city.

Ok, so I would like to say that my anger over the matter is just about the guests, but really it's just the reason that makes me feel it's ok to complain about it so much. I am angry because I'm not quite sure how anyone, let alone a family member, would think that this is appropriate. I'm balled over by the rudeness of even the thought of two weddings in one weekend.

I have visions of wearing white, even a veil - to her wedding. Voodoo doll her the night before like "The Witches of Eastwick". I want her to spill red sauce on her dress and tear her veil. I want her to trip down the aisle as everyone points and laughs. When she looks back on her wedding day, I want her to be sorry she ever chose that weekend. I want her to know that everything that went wrong was because she did me wrong. I want to go to one of her nightclub shows and heckle the heck out of her. I want to punch her in the face and kick her when she's down. That will get her back!

But I'm a nice person, I know that two wrongs will not make a right and the only thing I can do is disinvite her to my wedding. I know, in the end, that my wedding will be wonderful no matter what. I know that I won't even be able to attend her wedding to see that evil woman walk down the aisle. I know that my guests will have a wonderful time.. that's all that matters, right?

hmm..

The Groom

Mark bought his suit today on Gilt Groupe. It looks so good with the dresses!

The light grey suite looks great with the dresses. :-D

We foundMark's paisley tie at Barneys New York in Tanger Outlets. It's a little less red in person. I think we'll do a white shirt, maybe with a slight detail.

Photos for Photos

My best friend from college is a wedding photographer and has gifted us with her talent for our engagement photos. Mark and I wander around Brooklyn and get inspired...

This is down the street from our apartment. I love the industrial grunge look.

Brooklyn Heights. Downtown skyline - you can see Mark's office building. Park benches, beautiful houses, water and the Brooklyn Bridge. Need I say more?

Love it! Prospect Park possibilities...  Check it out.

The Shoe Debacle..

It took a while for me to find the perfect shoe. At first I wanted a closed-toe T-bar heel, but I wasn't seeing any good ones. Then, I found a Cynthia Rowley shoe that I still have dreams about. Ah.. it had a round closed-toe, a crystal encrusted rectangle buckle on an ankle strap. The shoe was the perfect height.. it even came in off-white satin. But it didn't come in my size. :-(. So after more searching, I found my shoe.

Corloriffcs, Trisha. It has a cute little peep-toe and keyhole cutouts in the back, with a great little ankle strap.

I ordered them from the first site. I got an email notification that the shoes are being processed. I waited and waited and waited. The shoes never came!

I wrote one email. Then a second more frustrated email. No reply. I wrote a third email and cancelled my order. I'm guessing they went out of business..??

I ordered them from the second site. The shoes came. I got them sent to my mom's house because I wanted to try them on with the dress.. oh! you have to see the dress. ;-).

Of course, my mom opened them up. I think she tried them on! I think my sister did too!

"Oh they are so high! I don't think they are 3.25" like it says.. I'm going to measure them," says my Mom. "They look really big too.. you have to come an try them on."

"Mom, I don't care how high they are, I will wear them. I'm not giving up those sexy little keyholes for a couple hours of pain!"

My mom became obsessed with the shoes. I think she measured the heels 4 times. I started keeping count of how many often she told me how high the shoes were. In one conversation alone she mentioned the word "high" 5 times. She phoned me 3 different occasions, just to talk about the heel on my wedding shoe. She wrote one email - subject line: SHOES. I responded and her reply was simply, "too high". She told my sister, who told me over IM about the height of the heels and then wondered why I seemed frustrated.

Finally, I came home and I was able to try them on. I open the box. "Well, these are pretty high!" I tried them on.. they are a size too big. :-)

Now, I'm trying to return them.. Like everything, that can't be easy either. The information on the site led me to get a size that I normal wear, yet they are clearly too big. I have to pay to ship them back AND a 50% restocking fee. F- that! I'm speaking to a manager!

Invites

I'm making my own invites - being a graphic designer and all.. it's the least I can do!

I started with an idea that I wanted, but then I went to Kate's Paperie with my trusty bridesmaid and best friend, Lisa, I was presented with a lot more options and decisions to make than I had realized! I had to think about paper, envelope size, ornamentals.. and I still had to physically design the thing!

It's taken me a bit to get to this point, but I think.. I have made my invite!

Still have to think about the envelope design, I have to pick paper... RSVPs! Those are going to be phone number and web address - it's 2010 ;-). Directions - online.

Of course, a few key players will get the whole shebang - Can't wait to design it all!

My comps are below:

Final, I think..:

Dresses!

This weekend I picked out my bridesmaids dresses while I was out in Mass visiting my family. I had an exceptionally great time. My mom and sister accompanied me to Amari Bridal, armed with magazines and the thought that I knew exactly what I wanted..

Seeing the dresses and colors in person really makes a difference. I chose eggplant and lilac. My sister looks great in eggplant. Bill Levkoff.

Initially I was thinking of a pinkier purple, but I wasn't thrilled by the selection of dresses in that color. However, I did find one for my mom in that color...

I think Jade Couture has some great styles for Moms. The shape is modern and flattering to the body. The jacket hides the arm jiggles. And I love the lace overlay - it gives a shout out to my

dress..

And that brings me to my dress. The image is a Jim Hjelm design, but it's not my dress...

My mom is making my dress and I have pics to prove it!

Until next time. :-)